Despite not having internet (or even mobile for that matter!) access at Esther’s I decided I’d still begin my morning by writing and just post these blog entries later in the week when, hopefully, I’ll be back in Hawarden. OK - internet access now so I'm posting four days worth of blogging below . . .
We left Edinburgh early Monday morning on what promised to be yet another beautiful sunny day for those who remained in the city. Becky departed the train at Carlisle to head on to Manchester for her flight home while I continued on to Abergavenny in southwest Wales to meet Esther de Waal, with whom I would be staying for a few days. On the trip from Crewe, where I changed trains, to Wales there was a young boy-- maybe 8 or 9-- who was taking a day trip with his grandparents. They were headed to Ludlow for the day and although I’d never even heard of Ludlow, much less desired to spend a day there, after an hour on the train with this kid I was beginning to change my mind. I must remember to look up Ludlow later and find out more about it as any town that would provide “the best day of my entire life” for an eight year old boy must be worth knowing about.
I met Esther in Abergavenny and we made a brief stop for her to run errands in town while I looked around St. Mary’s priory and an exhibit on the history of the area set up in one of the former priory buildings that has been converted to a cafĂ© and exhibition space. Abergavenny has quite the past. The priory church, in particular, is really remarkable. It was built shortly after the Norman c
onquest of 1066 and inside there are more effigies than I think I’ve seen in one small church. The most remarkable site, however, is the statue of Jesse, carved out of a single tree that dates back to the 1500s. Evidently it used to be part of the carved wooden reredos or altar somehow but now lies on a stone slab at the front of the church. Considered one of the jewels of medieval British art, it was recently on loan to the Tate and one of the women from the church who was in the visitors center told me that they felt quite bereft and missed him while he was away from home.
Upon leaving Abergavenny we drove to a Welsh craft cooperative with a little patio and a wonderful view of a local holy mountain, the Skerrid, where we had a picnic and did some catching up. We then proceeded on to Cwm Cottage, Esther’s home, via some narrow, windy, hedge lined back roads so that I could get a sense of the rural area in which she lives. The borderland in this area is a truly remarkable landscape with gently sloping fields hugged by the Black mountains. The clouds seem to be suspended from the sky by invisible lines that simply float them in place, almost like scenery in a stage production. Add to that the speckling of sheep and a handful of cows thrown in for good measure and that’s the borders for you.
Esther’s cottage is quite lovely. There is the main house and then The Pottery, a little building down towards the rear side of the gar
den, where I am safely ensconced. In fact, I am now sitting in the main room at a table by the window facing the garden watching the rain fall and having a cup of tea. We spent a good deal of yesterday afternoon in the garden. After depositing me at The Pottery, Esther left me to have a little nap and then, just as I was waking up, came and knocked to tell me the girls were back if I wanted to come out and play. The girls are Esther’s niece, Bridget, and her two daughters, Erin - 6, and Leah - 3, who are staying until Wednesday. Another woman from down the lane, Tracy, who is back from the summer while her husband is on a tour of duty in Afghanistan, was also over with her two boys and daughter so the kids were having a good time playing Frisbee and sword fighting with plastic sabers as we sat and watched. Esther brought me a stack of books of Welsh poetry to peruse so I have my work cut out for me while I’m here!
After a bit we all trudged off down the hill to the old mill where Bridget’s parents, Esther’s sister and her husband, lived until two years ago. Esther is looking after a neighbor’s chickens and cats so we had to make the rounds of the animals, which the kids enjoyed, and then we stopped by two tree swings that are set up near the mill and stream for them to play for a bit. While the mothers and kids finished playing and headed off back up the hill in one direction, Esther and I continued walking by the stream as she wanted to show me the waterfall that I can hear from her garden. I’ll have to walk back when it’s not raining (I’m hoping the rain is just a temporary thing) and take pictures because it is truly lovely.
Upon returning to the cottage, the one set of kids headed home while the girls pl
ayed outside in the hammock . (Erin is quite the daredevil, or as Leah says, “a silly billy.” ) I read a bit in the sun and watched them until they went off to eat their dinner. As Bridget got them ready for bed, Esther and I sat in the garden and had drinks and got the Cathedral updates out of the way. (As she said earlier, she was dying to know what was happening but wanted to wait until she had a drink in hand.) We also talked about the course I’d just finished and a bit about the poetry aspect I was hoping to get but didn’t-- which she is going to provide over the next few days. I’d mentioned I was sorry to miss Donald Allchin’s input. He was scheduled to lecture, as I may have mentioned before, and was unable due to health reasons. So she rang him up and put me on the phone and we had a nice chat for 15 minutes or so about everything from R.S. Thomas really being an unhappy man to Donald being in a car with Thomas Merton when the news that Martin Luther King, Jr. had been shot came on the radio. It was wonderful conversation and gave me some ideas to work with for my paper that is due out of this course. Today evidently Esther is going to schedule another phone conversation for me, this time with the Anglo-Welsh poet Ruth Bidgood so after I finish this I am going to reread some of her poetry and come up with some questions to ask her.
Dinner was lovely as Bridget, Esther and I sat around the table and talked about everything from travel to books for teenagers (Bridget works in the library of what in the US would be the equivalent of a middle/high school), to genealogy. At times there was no conversation at all-- simply the sound of the sheep in nearby fields, the waterfall, and the chubby yellow and black birds who frequent the bird feeder outside the kitchen door. All in all, a lovely evening. I collapsed into bed wanting to read but too tired and despite waking up at 5:30 am as I have been doing since I arrived in the UK, I laid there listening to the rain for another hour or so. Now time to make some toast to go with me tea and attack the stack of books that are sitting on the table. More to come after today’s adventures . . .
My next to my last day - perhaps - with Esther but definitely my last morning in the Pottery. Today Bridget and the girls leave and another friend of Esther’s arrives so I’m moving into a room in the house so Susan can have this space. It seems Esther’s calendar is just as packed with friends and visitors at home as it is when she’s in Washington. The difference is here on the borders, she plays chef, chauffeur and tour guide as well as mentor, teacher and friend.
Tuesday morning after a couple hours of reading I went to the house for coffee then we all piled in the car to head to Abbey Dore. Fortunately when Leah packed teddy bears for the car s
he thought to bring three so there was one each for Erin, Leah and myself to hold for the short ride. Along the way we stopped so Esther could pick up her e-mail. She pulled into the parking lot of an inn/pub and stopped the car at the end of the lot and beginning of a winding road that led up the hill, presumably to a house. In the corner of the drive near the field was a dilapidated structure that we, left in the car when Esther got out, weren’t necessarily paying any attention to until Erin asked where great-aunt Esther was going. Bridget responded, “She’s going to a visit a friend who lives here to get her e-mail messages.” At that Erin bemusedly replied, “Her friend lives there?” Bridget and I both looked up to see Esther entering the shack and moving boards before pulling out a Tesco bag obviously containing her printed out messages. Bridget and I started laughing and were still laughing when Esther got back in the car. When we explained what was so funny, Esther told Erin that she was countercultural in picking up her e-mail messages from a shack and that while she might not understand what that means now, some day she would and she hopes she’d appreciate it and perhaps be inspired to be countercultural as well. I don’t know if Erin will be the countercultural one but I suspect Leah might be picking up messages from a falling down shed one day in her elder years . . .
Abbey Dore, a Cistercian abbey founded shortly after the Norman invasion, is quite lovely and quite a juxtaposition as it’s set next to an SAS training area. While we weren’t interrupted by any milit
ary maneuvers while visiting, as we were leaving the area later in the afternoon there was a Black Hawk circling the area for quite a while. What was occurring in the abbey was a craft/art show and music festival. The choir was rehearsing when we arrived and the south aisle was filled with pottery, paintings, photos, wooden trinkets, etc. Fortunately I could still get a sense of the structure and the apse area was clear of crafters. It was interesting in that they’ve taken bits of the broken architecture discovered during excavations and renovations and laid it on the floor in the apse, some with explanatory signs. There were several boss stones and some bits of arch as well as a green man and the head of a stone monk, who’s twin is still firmly ensconced outside in the abbey wall.
Esther showed me some of the highlights of the abbey including the reredos and the altar table, complete with a crude wooden drawer in the front of it that would have held relics. The church is now a parish church and even on a rainy Tuesday morning, there were people from the community visiting the craft fair and looking around. Esther introduced me to a member of her book club, a retired Methodist minister and his wife. He just discovered the poetry of Mary Oliver so we were chatting about her. He asked if she was married and when I replied she had been with her partner for many years before her partner died, he asked if her partner was a woman. When I replied yes, he said delightedly, “Oh wonderful! I’m so glad to know she has led a happy and fulfilled life.” When I told Esther later we were saying how amazing it is to have that kind of enthusiastic response from an elderly retired male minister in the Herefordshire.
We left Abbey Dore and headed to meet Bridget and the children, who’d taken off walking from the abbey to the nearby house and gardens of a friend of Bridget’s parents. While Bridget visited with Charis, Esther, the girls and I wandered around the lovely gardens, which are open to the public, and then down to the river. The gardens were truly amazing. I wish I’d taken photos but I was too caught up in enjoying them and in watching the girls race around. Every so often one would take one path through the garden and the other would take a different route and when they arrived at the convergence of the two paths they’d squeal and give each other a big hug. It was so sweet. I should have taken a picture of that to give to Bridget so she could show it to them when they’re 13 and 16 and, if they’re like other sisters, fighting like cats and dogs.
After a brief stop to pick up eggs (out of a friend’s garage where you pick the eggs and place the money for them in a tin) we came home and had lunch and then retired to our respective abodes to read. Well, I alternated between reading and napping. Esther had loaded me up with books yet again so I spent time reading about Alfred Watkins and ley lines, dozing, and reading more Ruth Bidgood, with whom I am having a phone conversation in about 35 minutes.
At 4:30 I went back to the house for tea with Simon McGurk, who is an English Benedictine associated with a monastery nearby but who, ironically, is the temporary prior at St. Anselm’s in Washington, DC. I’d heard of Simon but hadn’t yet met him and he is a delightful man. We were joined a short time later by another friend of Esther’s from the neighborhood, Marion. What a character! She’d been to Peru last January and Simon was in charge of establishing a monastery there a few years ago so they were chatting about Peru. Marion had been there in part to escape the Herefordshire winters and in part to study Spanish. She explained that she’s going back this coming January not only because she enjoyed it, but because of her Spanish teacher-- at which point she whipped out a photo album and opened it to a picture of her standing with two Peruvian gentleman. To give you the visual image-- Marion kind of reminds me of a hobbit. She’s short, probably in her late 60’s or early 70’s, very forthright with a clipped English accent, and a bit of a gruff, somewhat deep voice, and, it seemed evident within the first few minutes that we met, she tends to say whatever came into her mind> She also possesses a quick sense of humor and eyes that, when she smiles, disappear into narrow slits in her tanned, wrinkled face. Top all that off with brow hair that’s looks like it’s been cut by placing a bowl over it and you’ve got Marion. So imagine Marion with, on her left, a short Peruvian man of obvious native Indian extraction and on the right, a tall, very handsome, very dashing looking Peruvian of obvious Spanish extraction who looks more like a matador or tango instructor than a Spanish teacher. As I looked at the picture, Marion’s eyes sparkled (well at least what I could see of them) with glee as she asked if I could guess which one of the men was her Spanish teacher and why she was eager to return to Peru. I told her if I could get him as a teacher I’d be more than willing to brush up on my Spanish!
After tea I took a brief walk as the sun was finally shining and discovered I can get phone service at the top of the second hill in the lane leading to Esther’s so I stood by the side of a field of sheep and e-mailed home and then sent an inquiry to a hotel in Fishguard Harbor where I’m hoping to spend Thursday and Friday. I need to walk up the hill later and see if they’ve responded. At dinner last night with another friend of Esther’s, Anna, we were talking about sacred sites in Wales and she told me that I could get a bus from Fishguard Harbor to St. David’s so now I’m even more eager to get there as I was afraid I was going to have to miss out on seeing St. David’s as there’s no train that runs near there. I’m keeping my fingers crossed . . .
Dinner was another lovely time of great food and conversation. The girls were still having story time in front of the fire when I arrived so I sat and listened while Bridget read to the three of us (she was even kind enough to show me the pictures as she read!). I had bought a children’s book about St. Melangell and the hare at Pennant Melangell and someone asked me who I was giving it to or if it was for me. I told them at the time I bought it because I sensed I was going to find a little girl who would enjoy it and indeed I found two so I brought it to the house and gave it to the girls so Bridget included that in story time. Anna arrived and the girls were carted off to bed and we grown ups sat around and talked in front of the fire a bit before moving into the kitchen for dinner. Anna works in the local branch of a national organization that provides art therapy (as well as other types of therapy) for people who have sustained some sort of brain injury or compromise due to stroke, accident, illness, etc. She is also an artist and interested in ley lines, sacred geometry, poetry, etc. so it was fascinating conversation. After dinner we retired back to the sitting room for more conversation in front of the fire which continued after Anna left until we realized it was well past our bedtimes.
So now I’ve packed up everything but the books Esther has given me and am getting ready to move abodes. I’m looking forward to the conversation with Ruth this morning and can’t wait to hear what she has to say about poetry, perspective, pilgrimage, and a host of other questions I have for her. Then I don’t know what adventures we have planned for today-- I think perhaps another trip into Abergavenny but we’ll wait and see . . .
We’ll it’s now Thursday afternoon here in Wales. I’m safely ensconced in my hotel room in Fishguard Harbor, which was somewhat of an adventure but more of that momentarily.
First to finish up my time at Esther’s. Wednesday morning I had my phone conversation with Ruth Bidgood which was simply amazing. If you haven’t read her poetry, I highly recommend it. She was telling me she didn’t really start writing until she was in her 40s when she moved back to Wales after having left to attend university in England. It was a wonderful conversation about landscape, photography (she’s an amateur photographer), sense of place, sound, language, and some of her favorite poets. At the end, Ruth told me that when I’m back visiting Esther we need to make a point of going to visit her so we can meet face to face. When I was filling Esther in on the conversation she was thrilled with what Ruth shared with me and the questions I asked her.
After the call w
as over, the girls and Bridget walked me to Rowlestone church to show me the church where not only Esther attends, but also where Bridget’s parents were married, and where she and Erin were christened. It’s a Norman church and has an interesting arch over the altar in that there are angels at the bottom of each side of the arch but on one side they’re upside down. No one seems to know if that was on purpose or if the carving was just installed incorrectly but there it is. The girls went to get ice cream for us to have for lunch while I stayed and sat in the graveyard and just soaked up the atmosphere.
Susan arrived at lunch time. She and Esther were at Cambridge together and she is a delight. After lunch she and Esther took Bridget and the girls to the train station and they went to an exhibit in Abergavenny while I took a walk and then went back to my room, this time in the house, to read. Anna came over for tea later in the afternoon so we had another chance to chat.
In the evening, Esther, Susan and I headed out to dinner at the home of Rupert, an art dealer who formerly lived and worked in London and has spent the past couple years opening a gallery/garden/art center on the boarders. His gardens and gallery are incredible-- Saturday he begins a show of work by Eric Gill and so we had a sneak preview. After looking around the gardens and exhibit we went to the house where he was getting ready to make dinner. He wanted to make vegetable risotto but hadn’t ever made risotto before so he asked if anyone knew how. I, of course, volunteered (risotto being my comfort food) and he played sous chef while I did the cooking. It was wonderful as the vegetables and herbs came from his garden. That, along with a salad, some smoked fish, a couple bottles of wine and fascinating conversation (Rupert is quite entertaining and knowledgeable about local history) and it was a grand evening.
This morning after tea and toast, Esther deposited me at the train station and we said a quick farewell as she hates good-byes as much as I do. My final destination was, as I mentioned earlier, Fishguard Harbor on the far southwest coast of Wales. A friend of Esther’s Ann, who I’d met briefly at the Cathedral, was picking me up at the train station and taking me to the tourist information office to find a hotel and then for coffee. Unfortunately the town is so crowded (although I don’t quite know why after having walked around the town a while ago . . .) that the tourist information office warned me it might be hard to find a place to stay. Indeed, the first hotel we tried, which is the largest in town, was completely full. I finally found one that had one room just for tonight so I took it and figured I’d figure out a plan for tomorrow night l
ater. After checking in and dropping off my bags, Ann drove me back up the hill into town and we had coffee and chatted for a bit. She then headed home to get ready for guests and I wandered around the town to get a feel for it. It sits high on a hill above a harbor and the Irish sea. To get the full effect and contribute to the atmosphere, I got fish and chips and took them to the marine walk, a winding path that runs along a cliff overlooking the harbor. I sat on a bench and ate while greeting all the dogs who were being taken on their afternoon walk. After a quick stop in the hotel I then walked down to the water and along a jetty to take some pictures and sit and write for a while. Now I'm back in the hotel room hoping for a fairly early evening although it's already 9 pm . . .
Tomorrow morning I’ll get up early and go to St. David’s and do a quick through the cathedral before coming back to catch the afternoon train to mid-Wales, as far as Llandridod Wells, a Victorian spa town in mid-Wales, where I’ll spend the afternoon and night. Then Saturday morning back to Hawarden and St. Deiniol’s where I’ll spend my time using the library, writing and maybe doing a day trip to Llandudno, another Victorian town this time on the coast.